Have you ever wondered if you were in a healthy relationship? What does it even mean to be in a healthy relationship? While every relationship works differently and there are things people like and don’t like, there are certain attitudes and behaviors that when present lead to healthy relationships on both sides.
Both sides are able to let go of the need to be right all the time. Listening to your partner and trying to understand the other person’s view while showing you are willing to consider a solution to the problem, does not mean you are saying they are “right” and you are “wrong”. This goes back to the old say would you rather be “right” or would you rather be happy. What good is it to be “right” if your partner holds a grudge against you for it? Being in a healthier relationship is not about finding what is right for the individual, but what is right for the couple.
Personal growth and change are encouraged. One thing guaranteed about life is that things are going to change, including your partner. They will not be the same person you were with 20 years ago and that’s ok. Learn to change and grow together and encourage it in your partner.
Each person takes responsibility for their own happiness. Make sure you have other things that satisfy you in your life in different ways besides your partner and encourage them to do the same. You like sports but they don’t? Find a group of outside friends to watch it with instead of forcing them to something they aren’t interested in.