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Loving Yourself

In the relationship conversation, the Five Love Languages is a hot topic, rightfully so. It is important to understand how one speaks/understands love in order to actually feel and receive that love. Why then, do we not consider this in terms of loving ourselves?

 

When the focus is on a duo, the tendency is to ask how each person is meeting the other’s needs. Often times when the responsibility is given to another person, our attention turns elsewhere. We’ve forgotten how to love ourselves. Similar to the concept of self-care, self-love should be another priority of yours, whether part of a duo or not. 

 

So, what is your love language, and how have you shown yourself love today? If you have not, consider reading The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. And, explore the ways in which you can meet your own needs first. It is widely quoted, “You cannot pour from an empty cup,” so let’s fill yours up first.

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People Pleasers- Are you one of those?

We are all people-pleasers in some way or another. And that is just fine for the most part. Wanting to be approved of—and loved—is as natural as needingfood and shelter.

But it’s when you try to please everyone that it becomes a problem.

You might be the go-to person for your extended family, co-workers or social circle.  

Are you:

       The guy who will always change their plans at a moment’s notice.

       The girl who will always take on more work and stay late.

The one who will always say yes.

The person who never says no!

 

If this is you, keep reading:

Why Trying to Please Everyone Doesn’t Work

  • You attract people less.

  • You love yourself less.

  • You are seen as untrustworthy.

  • You end up with less confidence.

  • You become more resentful.

  • You fail to please the one person that matters.

The most important reason to stop trying to please everyone has nothing to do with everyone and everything to do with just one person—you.  The more people a pleaser tries to please, the less time they have for their own pursuits, which can leave them feeling bitter.

Learning to be the real you, to stand up for yourself, to say no, is the only cure.

Make a promise to yourself to start today!

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