How do I cope with losing a parent as an adult?<\/h2>\n
Coping with losing a parent starts with letting yourself grieve in your own way, leaning on people you trust, and keeping a few simple routines while the loss sinks in. Plan ahead for birthdays, holidays and anniversaries, and give guilt, regret and relief room to be talked about. If the pain stays just as intense over time or makes it hard to get through your days, a grief counselor can help you work through it.<\/p>\n
When you\u2019re ready for support, our grief and loss counseling<\/a> therapists meet with you in person at our Texas locations or online, at your pace, to help you carry the loss of your parent. Start with the Get Matched form<\/a> and choose the option about working through a loss. For more questions like this one, browse our Grief & Loss guides<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n Losing a parent can knock your whole world off balance. One minute you\u2019re numb, the next you\u2019re crying in the cereal aisle because you spotted the brand your dad always bought. Feelings change from moment to moment, and they often contradict each other. That\u2019s not you doing grief wrong. That\u2019s what grief does.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s what many people notice:<\/p>\n All of these feelings are natural. You might even laugh at a funny memory and then feel guilty for it. That\u2019s normal too.<\/p>\n People expect it to be easier when you\u2019re grown, or when a parent lived a long life. It rarely is. Your parent may have known you longer than anyone, and still saw you as their kid no matter how old you got.<\/p>\n A parent\u2019s death can also shift who you are. You might become the oldest generation in your family overnight. You might take on jobs your parent used to handle, from hosting holidays to looking after a surviving parent. Losing your second parent can feel especially jolting, even if you saw it coming.<\/p>\n It\u2019s also a loss most adults face sooner or later. U.S. Census Bureau data, reported in a 2024 Monitor on Psychology<\/em> article, show that 44% of Americans have lost at least one parent by age 49, and nearly 76% have by age 59. Common doesn\u2019t mean small, though. Friends who\u2019ve been through it can help you feel less alone, but your grief still runs on its own timeline.<\/p>\n The early days are often a blur of calls, paperwork and people. Then the casseroles stop coming, and the quiet sets in. A few things help with both:<\/p>\n Grief takes a lot out of you. Taking care of yourself isn\u2019t selfish. It\u2019s what keeps you going.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re noticing grief spilling into your sleep, work and patience, our guide on How to Tell if Stress Is Affecting Your Daily Life<\/a> has more ways to spot it and ease the load.<\/p>\n Almost everyone who loses a parent replays something. The call you didn\u2019t return. The thing you said in an argument years ago. The treatment decision you signed off on near the end. Those \u201cwhat if\u201d loops tend to stop right at the moment you think you failed, and they skip everything else you did.<\/p>\n A few things can loosen their grip:<\/p>\n If guilt keeps circling for weeks and starts crowding out everything else, that\u2019s a good thing to bring to a counselor.<\/p>\n Firsts are hard. The first birthday without them, the first Thanksgiving, the first Mother\u2019s Day or Father\u2019s Day, the anniversary of the day they died.<\/p>\n A plan helps:<\/p>\n If the season itself starts to feel heavy, our guide on Why Do I Feel Down During the Holidays?<\/a> covers grief at the holidays and what helps.<\/p>\n A parent\u2019s death can pull a family closer, or stir up old sibling stuff when decisions about belongings and care land on top of everyone\u2019s grief. Part of the friction is that people grieve differently. One sibling wants to talk about Mom every day; another dives into work. Neither is wrong.<\/p>\n If you were the main caregiver, your role and purpose may have shifted overnight. Even with relief in the mix, you can still feel lost.<\/p>\n If you have children, they\u2019re grieving too, and they\u2019re watching how you grieve. You don\u2019t need to hide your tears. Seeing you sad and taking care of yourself teaches them big feelings are okay.<\/p>\n Kids grieve in bursts. They might cry, then run off to play five minutes later. If you\u2019re wondering whether your child\u2019s reactions are part of grieving or a sign they need more help, see How Do I Know if My Grieving Child Needs Therapy?<\/a>.<\/p>\n There\u2019s no set schedule for grieving a parent, and missing them years from now is part of loving them. For most people, the sharpest pain softens over time, with good days and bad days mixed in. Whether your grief needs extra support depends on how it\u2019s going for you, not on how long it\u2019s been.<\/p>\n These are the factors worth paying attention to:<\/p>\n For a small group of people, intense grief lasts and gets in the way of daily life. The American Psychiatric Association<\/a> calls this prolonged grief disorder and estimates it affects 4% to 15% of bereaved adults. You don\u2019t need to be sure before reaching out. If low mood has settled in alongside the grief, our guide on How Counseling Can Help With Depression<\/a> explains what that support looks like.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t have to be falling apart to see a grief counselor. Talking with a trained grief counselor can help you unravel the complicated parts of losing a parent in a supportive, constructive way.<\/p>\n In grief counseling, you and your therapist might:<\/p>\n Our therapists use evidence-based techniques to help ease some of the pain and fear that come with a loss. You set the goals together, and you go at your own pace. You don\u2019t need a formal diagnosis to start. For more on what happens in sessions, read our blog post Grief Counseling: How Therapy Can Help You Heal After a Loss<\/a>, or see how grief can move through The 7 Stages of Grief<\/a>.<\/p>\n Cost shouldn\u2019t be the thing that keeps you from support. You have three ways to pay with us:<\/p>\n Most sessions last about an hour, and there\u2019s never an extra cost to meet by telehealth.<\/p>\n We provide affordable, reliable, and accessible care across Central Texas. Find a location near you.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n We have ten locations in Texas, and we also see clients online on a secure, HIPAA-compliant video platform, with phone sessions available too. That helps when you\u2019re juggling a surviving parent\u2019s care or just can\u2019t face a drive on a hard day. When you fill out the Get Matched form, you can mark that you\u2019re grieving a loss so we can match you with a therapist who fits. You can also find a location<\/a> near you.<\/p>\n This is an illustration, not a real person. Dana is 41. Her dad died in the spring after a long illness, and she was his main caregiver. Once the funeral is over, she feels relief that he isn\u2019t suffering, guilt about that relief, and lost without the daily appointments.<\/p>\n Dana starts small. She says yes when a friend offers to bring dinner on Sundays. She keeps her morning walk. She writes her dad a letter about the hospital decision she keeps replaying. As Father\u2019s Day gets close, she plans a cookout with his favorite recipe and asks her brother to come.<\/p>\n By late summer, the waves are still strong, her sleep is off and work is slipping. Looking at the factors above, she decides she\u2019d like more support and starts grief counseling online, around her job.<\/p>\n Yes. Relief is common, especially after a long illness or a hard caregiving stretch. It can sit right next to deep sadness and love, and it doesn\u2019t mean you cared any less.<\/p>\n Grief often comes in waves. A song, a smell or a phone call you\u2019d normally make to your parent can bring it rushing back, even on a good day. Those sudden waves are a normal part of grieving.<\/p>\n Yes. We offer online sessions on a secure, HIPAA-compliant video platform, and phone sessions are available too. There\u2019s no extra cost to meet by telehealth.<\/p>\n No. A formal diagnosis isn\u2019t needed to begin therapy. Many people start simply because the loss is big and they want support.<\/p>\n Missing them may never fully go away, and that\u2019s okay. For most people the sharpest pain softens over time, and the missing becomes something you carry alongside a full life.<\/p>\n So we make scheduling an appointment easy with our online booking tool.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n This guide is general information from Taylor Counseling Group. It is not medical advice, a diagnosis or a substitute for care from a licensed mental health professional, and reading it does not create a counseling relationship. If you are in danger or need help right away, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" What grief after losing a mom or dad can feel like, simple ways to cope, how to handle guilt, family and hard days, and when grief counseling helps.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":48,"featured_media":310,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_yoast_wpseo_canonical":"","ll_review_state":"approved","ll_template_version":"v1","ll_sources":"[\"https:\/\/www.nia.nih.gov\/health\/grief-and-mourning\/coping-grief-and-loss\", \"https:\/\/www.apa.org\/monitor\/2024\/10\/grieving-parental-loss-midlife\", \"https:\/\/www.psychiatry.org\/patients-families\/prolonged-grief-disorder\/\", \"https:\/\/pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/articles\/PMC8475918\/\"]","ll_faq":"[{\"q\": \"Is it normal to feel relieved after my parent died?\", \"a\": \"Yes. 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Why does losing a parent hit so hard, even as an adult?<\/h2>\n
What can you do in the first few weeks?<\/h2>\n
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How do you take care of yourself while you grieve?<\/h2>\n
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How do you deal with guilt, regret and the \u201cwhat ifs\u201d?<\/h2>\n
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How do you get through birthdays, holidays and Mother\u2019s or Father\u2019s Day?<\/h2>\n
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How can you grieve alongside siblings and a surviving parent?<\/h2>\n
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How do you help your kids when their grandparent dies?<\/h2>\n
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How can grief counseling help after a parent dies?<\/h2>\n
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What does grief counseling cost, and does insurance help?<\/h2>\n
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Find a location near you<\/h4>\n
Getting grief support in Texas<\/h2>\n
A made-up example: one person\u2019s first few months<\/h2>\n
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Is it normal to feel relieved after my parent died?<\/h3>\n
Why does grief hit me out of nowhere months later?<\/h3>\n
Can I do grief counseling online?<\/h3>\n
Do I need a diagnosis to start grief counseling?<\/h3>\n
Will I ever stop missing my mom or dad?<\/h3>\n
Key takeaways<\/h2>\n
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Getting the help you need shouldn't be complicated<\/h4>\n
More in this section<\/h2>\n
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