How do I know if my child\u2019s grief is normal or needs a therapist?<\/h2>\n
Most grieving children cry, act younger, get angry or swing between sadness and play, and those reactions are a normal part of grief. It\u2019s worth talking to a professional when reactions last more than a few weeks, keep getting stronger, or get in the way of sleep, school, friends or daily life, or when the death was sudden or frightening. Whether your child needs their own therapist, play therapy or family counseling depends on their age, the loss and how the whole family is coping, and a child therapist can help you sort that out.<\/p>\n
If you\u2019re still unsure, a child therapist can help you sort out what your child needs. Our play therapy for children<\/a> is built for kids about 5 to 12, and our grief and loss counseling<\/a> supports teens, parents and whole families at our Texas locations and online. For more questions like this one, browse our Grief & Loss guides<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n Kids grieve differently from adults, and it can be confusing to watch. Your child might sob at bedtime and then ask for a snack like nothing happened. That switch doesn\u2019t mean they\u2019re over it or didn\u2019t care. Play is often how kids take a break from feelings that are too big to hold all at once.<\/p>\n Common reactions in the weeks after a death include:<\/p>\n Sadness can also come back for a long time, especially around birthdays and holidays, and sometimes at moments you\u2019d never predict. That\u2019s grief doing its normal work, not a setback.<\/p>\n What your child understands shapes how they grieve. The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry<\/a> explains that preschoolers usually see death as temporary and reversible, while children between five and nine start to think about death more like adults do, yet still believe it won\u2019t happen to them or anyone they know.<\/p>\n Skip phrases like \u201cwent to sleep\u201d or \u201cwe lost her.\u201d Kids are literal, and soft words can create new fears, like being scared of bedtime.<\/p>\n One rough week isn\u2019t a red flag. What matters is when reactions settle in and stay. Signs that a child may be having serious trouble with grief include:<\/p>\n If any of these keep going, it\u2019s time to talk with a professional. That last one deserves a call to your child\u2019s doctor or a child therapist right away rather than waiting to see if it passes.<\/p>\n There\u2019s no exact cutoff, and kids revisit grief as they grow. Whether your child needs support depends on a few things together:<\/p>\n You don\u2019t have to be certain before you reach out. A consultation can end with \u201cthis is normal grief, and here\u2019s how to support it at home,\u201d and that\u2019s a good outcome too.<\/p>\n Some losses are simply harder for kids to carry. Support is worth considering sooner when:<\/p>\n When trauma is part of the picture, our trauma recovery<\/a> therapists offer TF-CBT, CPT and EMDR, and a therapist can help you sort out which approach, if any, fits your child.<\/p>\n It depends on where the grief is showing up and who\u2019s carrying it. These are the factors a therapist weighs with you:<\/p>\n These aren\u2019t either-or choices. Many families pair a child\u2019s play therapy with some family sessions. For a closer look at the playroom side, read Is Play Therapy Right for My Child?<\/a>.<\/p>\n Most young children can\u2019t sit down and explain how they feel about a death. They can show it, though. In play therapy, toys work like words and play works like sentences. A child might bury a toy figure in the sand tray, build a house where someone is missing, or play out a hospital scene again and again.<\/p>\n A trained play therapist notices those themes and gently helps your child:<\/p>\n Play therapy can help children heal from the loss of a loved one and other big life changes. Children typically do play therapy for two to twelve months, depending on how complex the concerns are, and you stay involved with check-ins and ideas to try at home.<\/p>\n Teens can be the hardest to read. Many hide grief from parents, to protect you or because friends feel safer. You might see moodiness, time alone, slipping grades, or a push to act like nothing happened.<\/p>\n A few things help:<\/p>\n We see clients from age five through late adulthood, so a teen can have their own counselor, with the option of family sessions alongside.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t need perfect words. You need to be there.<\/p>\n Keep saying the person\u2019s name. Sharing happy memories helps kids learn that healing doesn\u2019t mean forgetting.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re helping a child through a death, you\u2019re probably grieving too. It\u2019s okay for your kids to see you cry. What helps them most is seeing you sad and also seeing you take care of yourself.<\/p>\n If you\u2019ve lost your own mom or dad, our guide on How Do I Cope With Losing a Parent?<\/a> has ideas for you. If low mood has settled in and won\u2019t lift, How Counseling Can Help With Depression<\/a> explains what support looks like. Taking care of yourself is part of taking care of them.<\/p>\n You have three ways to pay. We\u2019re in-network with most major insurance plans, and our support staff will check your benefits. A benefits check isn\u2019t a promise of payment, so you\u2019re responsible for the full cost of sessions if your plan doesn\u2019t pay; see insurance and payment<\/a>. Our standard private rate is $130 per session. Our Affordable Care Program<\/a> is income-based, with sessions from $50 per hour session with Counselor Associates and from $30 per hour session with Practicum Students, under a Board Approved Professional Supervisor, and it doesn\u2019t use insurance.<\/p>\n We provide affordable, reliable, and accessible care across Central Texas. Find a location near you.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n Texas requires custody documents or a current court order that shows you can consent to your child\u2019s treatment. If you\u2019re a guardian, a grandparent raising a grandchild after a death, or a surviving parent whose paperwork is still being sorted, pull those papers together early. We have ten locations in Texas, plus online sessions on a secure, HIPAA-compliant video platform, so you can find a location<\/a> near you or meet from home.<\/p>\n This is an illustration, not a real family. Leo is 9. His grandma, who lived with the family and walked him to school every day, died suddenly in the fall. For the first few weeks he cried at night and asked the same questions over and over, which his parents expected.<\/p>\n Three months later, things are getting harder, not easier. He refuses to go to school most mornings, sleeps in his parents\u2019 room, has stopped seeing friends, and gets angry whenever anyone mentions her. His mom is grieving too.<\/p>\n Looking at the factors above, the loss was sudden, the reactions have lasted months and are growing, and they show up at home, at school and with friends. Those factors point toward getting support. His parents fill out the Get Matched form, schedule a consultation, and talk through play therapy for Leo with a few family sessions alongside.<\/p>\n Yes. Some kids look fine at first, and many grieve in short bursts between play. Keep checking in and keep talking about the person, and watch how things go over the coming weeks.<\/p>\n It\u2019s a family decision. If your child wants to go, explain ahead of time what they\u2019ll see and hear. Never force a frightened child to attend; a candle, a drawing or a family memory can be their goodbye.<\/p>\n Usually not. Kids often worry that bringing up the person will upset you. Saying their name and sharing happy memories shows your child that remembering is welcome.<\/p>\n No. A formal diagnosis isn\u2019t needed to begin therapy. Many families start because a loss is big and they want a professional view.<\/p>\n A parent with authority to consent completes the Consent for Treatment of a Minor form, and Texas requires custody documents or a current court order showing that authority. Having both caregivers on board also helps keep things steady at home.<\/p>\n So we make scheduling an appointment easy with our online booking tool.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n This guide is general information from Taylor Counseling Group. It is not medical advice, a diagnosis or a substitute for care from a licensed mental health professional, and reading it does not create a counseling relationship. 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How do kids understand death at different ages?<\/h2>\n
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Which signs suggest a grieving child may need more help?<\/h2>\n
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How long is too long for a child to struggle after a loss?<\/h2>\n
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Which losses make extra support more likely to help?<\/h2>\n
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Should your child see their own therapist, or should you go as a family?<\/h2>\n
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How can play therapy help a grieving child?<\/h2>\n
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What about grieving teens?<\/h2>\n
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How do you look after your own grief while helping your child?<\/h2>\n
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How do you get started, and what does it cost?<\/h2>\n
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Find a location near you<\/h4>\n
What\u2019s different for families in Texas?<\/h2>\n
A made-up example: one family deciding whether to get help<\/h2>\n
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<\/figure>\nFrequently asked questions<\/h2>\n
Is it normal that my child doesn\u2019t seem sad?<\/h3>\n
Should my child go to the funeral?<\/h3>\n
Will talking about the person who died make it worse?<\/h3>\n
Does my child need a diagnosis before starting therapy?<\/h3>\n
Do both parents need to agree to therapy?<\/h3>\n
Key takeaways<\/h2>\n
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Getting the help you need shouldn't be complicated<\/h4>\n
More in this section<\/h2>\n
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