Being able to say ‘no’ is part of setting healthy boundaries with yourself and with others But, do you ever struggle with saying that little two-letter word? Ever feel the need to offer an explanation? Therapists are here to help you discover that there is no need to worry or explain (most of the time anyways).
Saying “No, thank you,” in response to an invitation, offer, or request is a full response. It is a respectful way to decline. So, why do so many struggle with the need to offer an explanation or take on far more than we should because we simply can’t say it? Typically, there is a feeling of guilt or fear associated with declining. Will she think I don’t enjoy spending time with her? Will he think I’m not capable of more?
We spend a great deal of energy worrying about whether or not our actions will hurt others. This worry has a time and place, until the mounting pressure leads to sleepless nights, tension headaches, anxiety, etc. Remind yourself so long as you are acting with good intentions, you are not responsible for the way others react, respond, and feel.
Know your limits
Your limits should include time for self-care
Tune in to your own thoughts and emotions
“Just say no” (sometimes)