Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.
– Brene Brown
Setting clear boundaries is the key to ensuring relationships are mutually respectful, support, and caring. Boundaries set the limits for acceptable behavior from those around you. Having healthy boundaries is all about having self-esteem. When we love, care for, and respect ourselves we set the standards for how other people treat us.
When we have positive self-esteem we can understand what mutual respect, kindness, and love look like. When we love ourselves we are better prepared to say “no” and possibly disappoint others, while preserving our wants and needs. This means you can be yourself to a greater extent, asking for what you really want and need without fear of judgment.
Using the word “No”
Remember the importance of saying “no” in setting healthy boundaries. Say “no” to unreasonable requests, and reasonable ones from time to time, if they conflict with your schedule or plans.
Setting and adjusting boundaries
Examine current boundaries and decided to make adjustments if needed. After defining your boundaries- make them known. Keep in mind that if there is any backlash from the person you are setting the boundary with or if they want to argue, then it may be best to simply just walk away and focus on taking care of yourself.
Boundaries are important. They allow us to love ourselves and others at the same time.