Growing up in the same household doesn’t mean you’ll be politically aligned with your family members. In fact, it’s common for kids, parents, siblings and extended relatives to be political opposites. This divide can make holiday gatherings — and everyday life — tense, awkward and downright stressful.
Political divides also tend to grow during high-stakes election seasons. With the 2024 U.S. Presidential Election right around the corner, you might have noticed more political disputes among your family recently. Even during a challenging time like this, it’s possible to disagree about politics with parents or others without losing family in the process.
These tips will help you maintain peace among relatives.
Learn to Listen
The unwillingness of both sides to listen is a big reason for political arguments among family members. Even if you disagree with your parents or others in your family, you can still hear them out. While you might have to put on your best “poker face,” listening is a form of respect.
Remember that listening doesn’t mean you agree or give support. It’s healthier than interrupting and shouting. Plus, you might learn something new. After listening, you can take the floor and explain why you disagree. You can also say that while you don’t see things your relative’s way, you feel that any further discussion would be unwarranted.
Remain Calm
Do you get heated every time you disagree with your parents? Does the mere thought of talking politics with your sibling make your blood boil? The more out of control you are emotionally, the higher the chance that your conversation will end with yelling.
It can be challenging to remain calm during any debate with family. You may want to work with a professional counselor to find ways to embrace a peaceful mentality during these types of conversations.
Allow Yourself to Disconnect From the Discussion
Guess what? You don’t have to join the political discussion. It doesn’t matter who brings up the subject. It is your right to say, “I’m not going to have this conversation.” Just because someone else wants to discuss the hottest topics of the day doesn’t mean you have to participate.
Don’t be overbearing or rude, of course. Most people who like talking about politics assume everyone else does, too. When you assert yourself, you can take control of the situation. If your family member tries to goad you into an argument, refuse to take the bait. You’re not required to talk about anything, including the political landscape or your world views.
Avoid The Election Season Noise
Election season can be an especially tense and stressful time for family members who disagree on political issues. Political ads are all over the place, candidates are becoming more active, and the divide between your family can quickly deepen if you’re not careful. It’s best to avoid the noise of election season as much as possible to maintain peace in your home.
If a political ad or commercial comes up on TV, don’t make a comment. Simply change the channel. Consider submitting mail-in ballots instead of voting in-person so everyone can cast their ballots on their own schedule. Steer clear of the “who are you voting for?” conversations. Your family’s relationship is more important than winning or losing an election.
Losing Family Over Politics
Sometimes, families get so divided on political grounds that they temporarily separate or, sadly, lose touch permanently. If you feel that your relationship with family members is heading in that direction, consider talking with a therapist. Together, you can brainstorm ways to keep your cool even when the conversation gets hot.
