Romantic breakups are one of the most common traumatic events in life, but it doesn’t lessen how deeply painful and damaging severing a relationship can be.
Growing in love and intimacy means opening up to another person — their wants, needs, goals and dreams. This closeness can’t help but influence you as you move together in the same direction. A breakup means undoing this connection and ending this familiar way of life. Plans change, and the future looks dim.
While breakups are tough and potentially painful, there are healthy ways to recover, cope and move on. Here are some tips to help you move on post-break-up and signs that you are on your way to recovering.
Romantic relationships bring out intense feelings that often overcome logic or explanation. When this connection ends, even on good terms, an emotional reckoning takes place. Breakups are often compared to a physical wound, given how severe the emotional pain is afterward.
As you recover from a breakup, don’t try to hurry things along. Instead, give yourself time to reset, recharge and refocus on your future. While everyone grieves and processes heartache differently, the following five steps may be helpful as you recover in a healthy way:
- Take time off: Don’t feel like you have to hold back your emotions, especially right after the breakup. Instead, take some time off and give yourself privacy to cry, sob, yell or scream.
- Talk it out: Talking about the breakup can facilitate healing as it helps you gain perspective and develop a sense of clarity about what’s happened.
- Reclaim yourself: Take time to remember who you are outside of a relationship. Think about the parts of yourself you may have ignored and nurture them. This could include hobbies, activities, friendships and future dreams.
- Indulge in yourself: Allow yourself to participate in self-care rituals that may blur the line as splurges, like shopping, spa days, a new haircut or nibbling on sweets — anything that boosts your sense of self-worth.
- Go out with friends: Invest in deep, soul-filling friendships. Whether it’s lunch dates, traveling or just sitting together and chatting, these relationships are unconditional, reciprocal and can nourish your hurting heart.
You may be wondering how long it will take to get over the heartbreak and heal. The answer is unique for each person, but these are some of the signs that you are healing from heartbreak in a healthy way:
- The emotional ups and downs feel less intense.
- You have insight into why the breakup occurred.
- You find yourself looking toward the future instead of the past.
- You can embrace the good along with the bad of your old relationship.
- You’ve gained a greater understanding of yourself.
Find Compassionate Care at Taylor Counseling Group
While family and friends can help you through a breakup, they may have their limits. Care from a compassionate professional counselor provides a more neutral, long-lasting perspective. If you’re struggling to recover from a breakup, Taylor Counseling Group is here for you. We can help you gain insight and find healing after a broken relationship so that you can move on and discover renewed happiness.
We invite you to schedule your appointment online today to learn more.