We are all people-pleasers in some way or another. And that is just fine for the most part. Wanting to be approved of—and loved—is as natural as needing food and shelter.
But it’s when you try to please everyone that it becomes a problem.
You might be the go-to person for your extended family, co-workers or social circle.
The guy who will always change their plans at a moment’s notice.
The girl who will always take on more work and stay late.
The one who will always say yes.
The person who never says no!
If this is you, keep reading:
Why Trying to Please Everyone Doesn’t Work
- You attract people less.
- You love yourself less.
- You are seen as untrustworthy.
- You end up with less confidence.
- You become more resentful.
- You fail to please the one person that matters.
The most important reason to stop trying to please everyone has nothing to do with everyone and everything to do with just one person—you. The more people a pleaser tries to please, the less time they have for their own pursuits, which can leave them feeling bitter.
Learning to be the real you, to stand up for yourself, to say no, is the only cure.
Make a promise to yourself to start today!