Love has been defined by so many people and in so many ways. The dictionary defines it as an intense feeling of deep affection. People have used love to solve problems, to justify problems, and to fix problems. The truth is love is our emotional reaction to someone or something.
Possession has been defined by people as owning and controlling someone or something. The dictionary defines it as the state of having, owning, or controlling something. The truth is we, as people, could be confusing love with possession. We hear people say, ‘I take pride in my family. This means they feel love from having a family that displays what they want to show the world. But is this love for the family or pride in the possession?
Love is a reaction to feeling trust in somebody or something. Trust is built through actions and open communication. Having open communication of our feelings keeps us from going down the slippery rabbit trails of our minds. The rabbit trails of jealousy, insecurity, and doubt, the pillars of possession. Communicating when we feel insecure in our relationship keeps the rabbit trails at bay. Without communication, there is no trust and no trust turns love into possession.
Possessing our partner or things can make us think we feel trusted and loved without us actually doing the work. Possessing can lead us to holding tightly to someone or something that is failing. Thus clouding our judgement and starting the slippery rabbit trails of jealous, neediness, and low self-esteem. Leading to a possible path of infidelity and a unfulfilled relationship.
Do not mistake love for possession. Do the work of waking up each morning, choosing your partner, choosing to show love through actions of trust, and choosing to walk the path you would be proud of. Relationships can be work but if you love who you are with then it is work, that’s well worth it.